When we make pictures of our children we want them to be cheerful, laughing, or smiling perfectly. But, pardon me for stating what everyone knows is true, the real world works a bit differently? Kids express a wide range of emotions and, as any parent or teacher will tell you, that pendulum can sweep the arc from racking sobs to boisterous prancing in just minutes.

And that was the situation I found myself in one morning as I was trying to make photos of my four year old daughter. She had woken up early and got dressed, excited for her birthday party just hours away.  She was running around in jolly spirits when I scooped her up and plopped her on the table to make pictures of her. And just as I stepped back something upset her and she started complaining and fidgeting and refusing to smile for the camera, which was quite unlike her. Even as she was being uncooperative I kept clicking. A few minutes later I picked her up to calm her down. We talked, and her mood improved. I never did find out what had upset her but in a couple minutes she was back to being her usual chatty, bubbly self, and she ended up posing happily for the camera.

For a photographer all emotions are fair game for capture, especially when the subjects are kids. Even the non-smiling, upset, angry, pouting photographs tell stories that spice up dinner conversations and fuel hilarious recounts at family reunions. So, go ahead, click when they laugh, click when they scream, click when they cry, and click when they blush. Click away. Capture them all!

As any photographer worth her salt will readily attest, getting a subject to flash an authentic smile is hard work. But one fine spring morning it turned out to be not much work for me when my girl, decked up in traditional attire and looking beautiful, rewarded me with a great smile. Here’s the back story.

She was rushing out to her friend’s place for an event and a last task for her was to gather flowers from the backyard garden. She was looking lovely, and being one to never miss a chance to shoot pictures I chased after her, camera in hand, pleading with her to pose for a few shots. She refused, saying she was running late and promising to pose later. I backed off, a bit disappointed, but stayed in the garden watching her pluck flowers, admiring her beauty and thinking to myself how lucky I was that she had been part of my life all these many years.

And then I noticed the sunlight streaming through her hair. It was a classic backlit scene! Right then I decided I was not going to let this photo opportunity slip by and raised my camera, ready to fire away a few shots. She looked up momentarily, realized I was not going to give up, and smiled and, as they say, the rest is history. I got the shots!

That smile from my girl? I chalked it up to my muse smiling on me.

It’s a tricky one, the smile business, but once in a while it works like a charm!

As young parents we take lots of pictures of our babies. We take pictures when they are asleep, we take pictures of their toothless smiles, and we take pictures of their first steps. Each day we rejoice in new discoveries about our baby. For some of us there are not enough pictures we can take of the precious ones.

But as our babies grow into toddlers, into kindergartners, and into grade school students, us parents also get saddled with greater responsibilities that take up a greater share of our time and attention, and taking pictures of kids becomes, at best, a luxury. It ranks low on the list of things to do. And too late we discover that the kids are all grown up, all too fast, and there is nary a record of where and how things were when we were running around trying to balance life at work and home.

Having a camera handy and every once in a while taking a few pictures of kids as they go about their daily activities goes a long way towards building a documentary of their growing up years. Taking those pictures need not be intrusive or disruptive — they are made with no expectations. But they remain, the moment recorded for posterity, to be savored at leisure. In fact, those spontaneous, spur of the moment pictures turn out to be the best ones!

In later years those pictures bring back to memory long forgotten stories. Parents can look back and take pride in how they managed to juggle career and caregiving and how the kids turned out. The kids, now grown up, can connect with their past, marvel at the wonder years of their childhood, their favorite toys, their teachers, the friends they played with, and the fun family camping trips they never knew happened.

Every now and then break away for brief moments from your busy routine to grab a few pixels. Yes, it will all be worth it.